Sacred Space

This is my sacred space ^^

How many of you have a designated sacred space?

Maybe a spiritual altar or a meditation nook?

I’ve had what I call a soul altar for years now. I realized early in my spiritual journey that I not only wanted but needed a sacred space that I could go to when I wanted to disconnect from the daily hustle and bustle, ground into my body and experience, and do all the soulful things.

Our space really does affect us.

I was chatting about this to my soulmatebff (and partner in crime in screenwriting and here at TSC) Jess the other day. I was telling her how I had a parade of workers in and out of my apartment for a few days to do some electrical upgrades and how it was taking so much more of a toll on me than I expected.

It wasn’t just the noise and inconvenience (and dust and dirt, oh god, the dust and dirt!), it was having a number of strangers in my space, moving things around, knocking holes in the walls and ceilings, and infusing my usually zen and flowy space with their energy.

My friend shared her own experience with having her sacred space disrupted. She’s enduring some home renovations at the moment, and her usual space for all things relaxation and divine connection was cluttered with tools, supplies, etc., and it was really disrupting her flow and routine (and mental energy!).

This is why people get so into things like feng shui or the Marie Kondo method. We start to realize how this stuff affects us and the change and liberation we can experience if we do something about it.

For me, it took a few years to get my sacred space just right. It used to just be a chair for meditation. Then I got some shelves and did a floor-based altar that caught my eye on Pinterest and wound up being uncomfortable and lacked functionality.

Now I have a spacious desktop altar, with space for my salt lamp, candles, and other spiritual totems AND, most importantly, plenty of space for me to do card spreads and journal. I still have my chair for meditation, right next to my altar – basically half of my bedroom is my zen den, and I love it. It’s my favorite spot in my apartment 🙂

Sooo if you don’t yet have a sacred space – I encourage you to create one. Not only will it be fun to design and set up (especially if you’re an interior design nerd like me), but it will give you that little safe haven that you can escape to when you need to turn off the outside world and take the time and space to go inwards.

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Of Passions & Purpose

This is my current soul journal. I usually have one for a year <3

A couple of weeks ago, I had one of those moments in life. The kind where, as you’re experiencing it, a part of you knows it’s a #bigdeal and something that you will look back on again and again and be like, “That was the moment when…x, y, z.” It was almost like an outer body experience, if I’m being honest.

On the shore of my oceanic bae, the Pacific Ocean in good ole California, I led nine incredible women in a full moon circle.

As I recently started doing my own moon rituals, I suggested to a friend of mine that, while in San Diego to run a work event, we should do an evening beach trip for our own little moon ritual. A day later, the topic of conversation came up again with another friend, and from there it quickly snowballed into a group thing.

A group thing that kind of scared the shit out of me.

On the one hand, I was EPICLY STOKED at the opportunity to do something that had been a long standing heart’s desire of mine – to connect with others on a deep level through leading some sort of soulful, spiritual experience.

On the other hand, I was freaking out at the prospect of organizing this gathering and then being the ::terrified gasp:: leader and “center of attention.” That’s something I’ve actively hid from for the longest time.

It’s like a paradox – having a deep desire to be seen and heard, but also being downright terrified of being seen and heard. lol oh to be human!

Luckily, in this case, I didn’t have much time to dwell on it and spin out with my fear. I sat down with my soul journal and just started drafting an agenda for a simple, focused moon circle. (And yes, I really did create an agenda, because I’m Type A and that’s literally part of my DNA and a huuuge part of my day job skillz, okay? 😉

I’ll admit I was pretty anxious for a majority of the day leading up to the moon circle, but the closer we got, the more excited I grew. And then we were meeting up on the beach and walking toward the ocean. We formed a circle and…

It was like a lightswitch flipped and I was suddenly operating as my higher self as I led the women into an energy cleansing and grounding practice to start us out.

That ^^ was the moment that I mentioned at the start of this post.

It was so strange to be fully present in that moment, but still, somewhere in my subconscious, part of me was like, “Holy fucccck, this is the thing you’ve wanted to do for so long and you were so afraid of, but look at how NATURAL it is for you!!” With a side of, “Who are you?!” ::insert side eye emoji::

The moon circle experience was truly incredible. It’s a night I’ll always remember, and I’m so grateful that I was able to share it with a group of heart-centered, passionate women who made me feel safe, even when being seen and heard ::dun dun dun::

It really amped up my confidence, as I’ve always been one to suffer from imposter syndrome. Something can be on my heart for all of eternity, and there can be synchronicities and signs dropping in all over the place, but my fear will always win out as I wonder, “Who am I to (insert thing I want to do)??”

It was also such validation that I am 100% on the right path. My own spiritual journey, everything that has led me here, the desires of my heart, all of my interests and lessons learned, and now here with The Sacred Channel – this is all meant to be and has been divinely orchestrated. There’s not a doubt in my mind.

So if there’s something that’s been niggling at you, something that your heart is so desperately craving, even if it’s just a small curiosity to maybe, I dunno, take a pottery class, or visit a new town – do it.

The things that call to us do so for a reason. They are meant for us, and it would be such a shame to miss out on them. <3

P.S. Shoutout to my soul sister Britt for refusing to co-host the moon circle with me to force me to step into my power and do it myself. Endless apologies for my initial EW face and being mad – your higher was just giving my higher a lil slap up the side of the head to werrrk my magic 😉 I love you and appreciate you, B!

P.P.S. For those of you who enjoy full circle moments, Britt is the person I emailed nearly three years ago confessing that I felt so called to connect with others through soul coaching or spiritual work but was struggling hardcore with “who am I to…” So it’s even more awesome that she not only gave me that little push, but was there to witness the moment 😉

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Presence & Breath

It’s no secret that soul searching, spirituality, meditation, and all those good things are a big part of my life. Personal growth is a bit of an obsession of mine, and I love to learn new things and try new practices as part of my personal development and spiritual journey. Meditation is something that I practice daily, and today I want to write about two practices that are closely related to meditation: presence and breath.

A few years ago, I participated in this awesome group coaching program focused on eating disorders and body image issues. The foundation for this work was very soul-centered, which is one of the reasons why I was drawn to it in the first place. In fact, I was so drawn to this organization, that I now work for it, helping others with personal growth, transformation, healing, and the like.

Two of the pillars of this work are presence and breath, which I’ve learned from personal experience can have a profound effect on our day to day life, especially when it comes to daily stress and anxiety.

Being present on the daily is a challenging endeavor. It can take dedicated and constant observation of your thoughts and feelings to shift into presence. The cool thing about this practice though, is that you quickly discover that in those fleeting moments of full presence, it really is a rewarding and perspective-shifting experience. I find this especially true as someone who is trying to:

  • Connect with my body on a deeper level,
  • Be more aware of my life and how I show up day in and day out,
  • Access higher states of consciousness and divine wisdom daily, and
  • Be more positive and optimistic in general.

Breath is a huge part of practicing presence. I don’t think you can have one without the other. Really think about it – breathing is this involuntary act that we do constantly to stay alive. But when you really hone in on it and focus on it with intent and curiosity, it can become a great tool that helps alleviate stress and promote wellness. Breathing can literally cause a state change in your body. I’ve found breathing to be really useful when it comes to:

  • Meditation: Focusing on my breath can help me drop into a meditative state quicker, and go deeper into my meditation.
  • Stress/Anxiety: When I feel myself getting overwhelmed, I’ll stop and take a few deep breaths until I feel more centered and less anxious.
  • Disordered Eating: It’s impossible to binge if you’re present (and focusing on your breath). Most of the time, if I want junk or am heading toward binge autopilot, it’s because of stress or some other #donotwant emotion that I’m trying to suppress with a quick state change – hence the magic of breath.
  • Body Connection: I’ve started to experiment with breathwork, and I’ve found that it helps me connect into my body and really FEEL it in a way that I never have before. It’s insanely mind-blowing, I can literally feel the energy moving throughout me, where I have stuck emotion/energetics, and I just feel so much more alive.

So how do you start practicing presence and breath?

I started out by setting daily alarms on my phone, usually for 9AM, 1PM, and 7PM. When the alarm would go off, I’d take a moment to breathe and center myself and then check in with myself to see if I needed a shift or to do anything (drink water, walk away from work for a bit, cord cut, etc.). At first it was challenging, especially for the first two alarms that went off during work hours. I’d often be too busy to stop, so I’d just shut off the alarm and keep working. BUT when I actually started to commit to these practices and respected the alarms and daily check ins, I noticed such a difference in my mental and physical states that I now do presence/breathing check ins frequently throughout the day without using any alarms.

As for the literal practice I use, it goes something like this:

  1. I close my eyes and take three deep breaths. I favor 6-3 breathing (inhale for a count of 6, hold for a count of 3, exhale for a count of 6, hold for a count of 3, repeat).
  2. Take inventory. Mental inventory is when you check in with your mindset and emotions. Are you feeling sad? Anxious? Angry? Physical inventory focuses more on your body and visceral state: are you hungry? Thirsty? Tired? Sometimes I take inventory of my surroundings, just noticing what’s going on around me: the conversations, the colors, the furniture, the light, etc.

There are so many benefits when it comes to presence and breath. The biggest benefit of presence is also the meaning of it – to just be in the here and now, where everything is okay, the past is long gone, and the future hasn’t happened yet. The benefit of breath is that you can really hone it to become a tool for your health and wellness. It can up your meditation game and help you learn to alleviate stress and anxiety – those are some game changers right there.

I think there’s something magical in that such simple practices can have a truly profound impact on your overall health and happiness.

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I Thought I Was an Atheist

Yearsss before I got sucked into the world of spirituality, intuition, and soul searching, I thought I was an atheist. Well, until I realized there was a difference between an atheist (one who doesn’t believe in God or gods) and a theist (one who does). I was definitely more of a theist, I was just kind of allergic to organized religion.

Both of my parents had grown up Catholic, and my dad in particular did not revel in that experience. Starting at a young age, Catholicism had a negative connotation for me, and since it was the only religion or source of spirituality I was exposed to, I thought it was all that existed.

I remember trying to read the Bible as a young child and finding it frightening. I also remember numerous times when my siblings and I would be “bad,” and my dad would threaten to send us to Sunday School.

Still, I knew, even as a child, that I believed in something, I just didn’t know what. I discovered that much later, into my twenties, when I reconnected with a former coworker. It was a total act of divine intervention that I felt so called to reach out to this woman, who had been no more than a casual work acquaintance. 

We were both going through a rough time and quickly found solace in our new friendship. As a way to pass the time, we started to pull oracle cards for guidance and healing, which soon turned into “meditating,” which we would later learn was actually us channeling and giving each other psychic readings. (My friend is a legit psychic medium whose readings and accuracy still blow my mind to this day.)

The rest, as they say, is history 😉 Long gone are my “atheist” days. Now I geek out over anything spiritual and am a total nerd when it comes to learning about others’ beliefs, religions, and practices. 

I believe in source or a higher power. I believe that we are infinite souls who reincarnate into new lives over and over again, and in between those lifetimes, we hang back on the “other side,” or soul realm, to learn, guide, and evolve. It’s funny, I’ve had these kind of beliefs for a looong time, and last year I read Journey of Souls by Michael Newton for the first time, and was blown away by how a complete stranger wrote so detailed an account of my own beliefs. 

I think, at the end of the day, we all want to believe in something else, something bigger, and know that there is something out there that is watching over us and guiding us along the path of life. And what that looks like and feels like for each person is different, and that’s okay. It’s pretty beautiful actually.

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Welcome to The Sacred Channel!

I’ve been on my own spiritual journey for about 10 years now, and I’ve learned so much along the way – about myself, about my beliefs, about spirit, and about my gifts. Over the past year or so, I’ve felt called to start sharing this part of my life and connect with a wider spiritual community. Everything spirituality and soul searching is such a passion of mine, and I’m happiest when I am connecting with others on that deeper, soul level and geeking out over my latest mediation or card spread.

I am so excited to launch The Sacred Channel that words practically escape me. As a writer, that’s kind of saying something 😉

The foundation of this calling I’ve felt, and honestly just a big part of who I am as a person, comes down to helping and supporting others.

I know what it’s like to feel buried in the deepest pit of misery and despair, certain that you’ll never claw your way out, let alone experience real peace, happiness, and fulfillment. I also know what it’s like to feel that spark of creation, expression, divine connection, and flow, to the point that it feels like you’re walking in a magical, waking dream.

The Sacred Channel is about connecting with and helping others through spirituality, and I plan to do this in two ways:

1) Offering services based on my innate spiritual gifts, like channeling and card readings.

2) Creating content and sharing practices and resources that can help others develop their own intuition and discover their own divine connection and gifts.

I believe that we are all a sacred channel. Each of us, at any given time, has everything we need to connect to source, spirit, and our higher self. We are all supported in such an incredibly magical way, and tapping into that can truly change your life.

I’m so excited to see where this path takes me, and to continue learning, growing, and serving others.

Love always,

Pam

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