It’s been over a decade since I started to dabble in the realm of personal growth, and within the past few years I’ve really leveled up my commitment to my own journey of self-discovery. The concept of relationships and deep connection has been on my radar more and more, and I’ve realized not only the importance of connection and our relationship with others, but also how it can spawn revelations when it comes to personal growth and self-identity.
Over the years, like everyone, I’ve experienced an ebb and flow with my friendships. Very few of my current friends are people I knew before college, and I’ve shed three of my longest tenured (think at least 10 years) and/or deepest friendships over the past few years alone. Losing those friendships was really painful, but it also made me realize how important it is to let go of relationships that no longer serve you, especially if they’re toxic.
Each of us deserves to be treated with love and respect, and if that isn’t something that you are receiving in your relationships, then it’s time to let them go. It’s also important to realize that sometimes you just outgrow people. I know for me, once I opened myself to authenticity and personal integrity and really took inventory of my personal values and beliefs, it was extremely difficult for me to settle for friendships that were unbalanced or shallow.
Looking past the pain of those lost friendships, I realized that the connections that I still maintain are bonds that truly light me up. I have quality friends. I am surrounded by people who genuinely love me and care about me and my life. They want what’s best for me. They encourage me to chase my dreams and explore my potential. They support me in good times and bad, and they love me for me. Really, at the end of the day, that is all any of us want, right?
The awesome–and unexpected–result of shedding toxic relationships is that it made me really invest in my relationship with myself. I began to realize that I deserve better. I deserve to receive the same quality of love and support that I so freely offer to others. Self-love has been a big theme for me the past couple of years, and it’s helped me not only cultivate a deeper appreciation and love for myself, but it’s also ushered so many amazing people into my life.
Once I overcame my fear of letting go of a few toxic relationships, I received an influx of new and beautiful people in my life. These amazing earth angels share so many of the struggles and aspirations that I experience, and it has allowed us to bond quickly and on a much deeper level than I was used to. Bonds like that, particularly ones that accompany hardcore soul-searching, force you to be better and shine brighter.
I now feel more aligned and authentic to who I am than I’ve ever felt in my life. I know that I am here to shine my light and give others permission to do the same. That revelation and the feeling that goes along with it would never be possible if it wasn’t for the amazing, beautiful, soulbffs who are part of my life. <3