On Friendship

It’s been over a decade since I started to dabble in the realm of personal growth, and within the past few years I’ve really leveled up my commitment to my own journey of self-discovery. The concept of relationships and deep connection has been on my radar more and more, and I’ve realized not only the importance of connection and our relationship with others, but also how it can spawn revelations when it comes to personal growth and self-identity.

Over the years, like everyone, I’ve experienced an ebb and flow with my friendships. Very few of my current friends are people I knew before college, and I’ve shed three of my longest tenured (think at least 10 years) and/or deepest friendships over the past few years alone. Losing those friendships was really painful, but it also made me realize how important it is to let go of relationships that no longer serve you, especially if they’re toxic.

Each of us deserves to be treated with love and respect, and if that isn’t something that you are receiving in your relationships, then it’s time to let them go. It’s also important to realize that sometimes you just outgrow people. I know for me, once I opened myself to authenticity and personal integrity and really took inventory of my personal values and beliefs, it was extremely difficult for me to settle for friendships that were unbalanced or shallow.

Looking past the pain of those lost friendships, I realized that the connections that I still maintain are bonds that truly light me up. I have quality friends. I am surrounded by people who genuinely love me and care about me and my life. They want what’s best for me. They encourage me to chase my dreams and explore my potential. They support me in good times and bad, and they love me for me. Really, at the end of the day, that is all any of us want, right?

The awesome–and unexpected–result of shedding toxic relationships is that it made me really invest in my relationship with myself. I began to realize that I deserve better. I deserve to receive the same quality of love and support that I so freely offer to others. Self-love has been a big theme for me the past couple of years, and it’s helped me not only cultivate a deeper appreciation and love for myself, but it’s also ushered so many amazing people into my life.

Once I overcame my fear of letting go of a few toxic relationships, I received an influx of new and beautiful people in my life. These amazing earth angels share so many of the struggles and aspirations that I experience, and it has allowed us to bond quickly and on a much deeper level than I was used to. Bonds like that, particularly ones that accompany hardcore soul-searching, force you to be better and shine brighter.

I now feel more aligned and authentic to who I am than I’ve ever felt in my life. I know that I am here to shine my light and give others permission to do the same. That revelation and the feeling that goes along with it would never be possible if it wasn’t for the amazing, beautiful, soulbffs who are part of my life. <3

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Resources for When You’re Struggling with Fear, Anxiety, & Doubt

Well, it has certainly been a tough few weeks for the world. At the time of writing this, we are dealing with the coronavirus pandemic, and to say it’s been scary AF is an understatement, as far as I’m concerned.

People have died due to contracting the virus. Others have fell gravely ill. Millions of people have lost their jobs and/or businesses. The stock market has tumbled into concerning territory. People are hoarding supplies and store shelves grow more bare by the moment.

Again with the scary AF.

Even as a lightworker and someone who is super spiritual and tends to err on the side of optimism and faith, I’ve been struggling too. We’re in unprecedented territory, and our very way of being for so long has been turned on its head.

It’s hard not to spiral into fear and uncertainty.

Luckily, there ARE things that we can do to ground ourselves, work through our fear, and tap into inner wisdom and the love and light of the universe so that we can hopefully feel a little less terrorized and panicked.

Which is why I wanted to share some resources with you that I’ve found so helpful at this time. These practices have really helped me work through my anxiety and overwhelm so that I’m not in a constant state of terror and helplessness. Check these out:

Facing Fear with Compassion w/Elizabeth Gilbert: I have loved Elizabeth Gilbert since the Eat, Pray, Love days. Her writing is beautiful, relatable, and inspirational. I’ve also seen her speak live, and she really is a weaver of words, not just in writing, but in speaking too. Needless to say, I was super excited when I saw her post on Instagram about this talk she did for Insight Timer. In it, Elizabeth not only shares lots of love and inspiration, but one of her own personal practices to help work through fear. You can check this out on the Insight Timer app for free!

Guided Meditation to Reduce Panic, Anxiety, & Worry by The Honest Guys: I’ve been meditating for over a decade, and although I tend to bounce around from my own meditation practices, to guided meditations, to in person meditations, I always come back to The Honest Guys for guided tracks. Their YouTube channel is one of the best I’ve seen for free meditations. They are all high quality, and there are soooo many different types to choose from. But for today, and the current state of the world, and trying to work through panic and fear, this one is a good one to turn to!

Practicing Gratitude: I know it may sound cheesy, or maybe even impossible given what is going on right now, but I promise, tapping into gratitude really can shift your state. My own practice is to journal my gratitudes each night, but sometimes I’ll also stop for a quick hit when I need it. And I’ve needed it a lot lately. Seriously, when you find yourself spinning out from fear and overwhelm, take a moment to stop, breathe, ground yourself in the moment, and write down (or speak aloud or think to yourself) three things you’re truly grateful for.

Journaling: When in doubt (or panic or fear or anxiety or anything really lol), write it out. Seriously. Sometimes we just need a release. And there’s nothing as powerful as putting your own words, thoughts, and feelings to paper. Let them go. Acknowledge them. All of those feelings have an energy, and one way to release that energy is to write it out.

LOL: Yep, good ole laughter as medicine. I’ll also admit that humor has been a defense mechanism for me my entire life, and there’s a reason for it – it works! Instead of focusing on what you can’t control, find something to laugh about. A quick search across the internet can help you find funny memes, but some of my favorite outlets lately have been daydreamnchill, shitheadsteve, thefunnyintrovert on Instagram.

I hope you find one, some, or all of these resources helpful, now, and in future times of need. Please know that I’m sending you love and light, and I truly mean that. It’s part of my evening routine – sending out waves of love, light, and healing to the world each night, from my soul to yours 🙂

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Channeled Message: Take care of yourself.

Photo by Samira Rahi on Unsplash

There is no doubt that this time is one of difficulty, fear, and pain, dear one.

If you feel as though you are spiraling in a dark abyss of fear, doubt, anxiety, and seclusion, that is okay. However you feel is valid.

Whoever you are, or are not, in this moment, is okay.

There is no “right” way to deal with this situation. It is unknown. It is unprecedented.

The most difficult lessons often are, and they are also the lessons that ultimately lead to growth and transformation.

But if you cannot look ahead to that time, or see the opportunity in this time right now, that is okay too.

The most important thing you can do right now is to take care of yourself.

However that may look:

  • Isolating to protect your sacred vessel and well-being.
  • Connecting with others in a safe way.
  • Taking a bath and washing away the fear, if only temporarily.
  • Practicing gratitude.
  • Meditation.
  • Art.
  • Spending time with your pet.
  • Doing absolutely nothing.

There is no “right” way to take care of yourself.

There is only an awareness needed, in each moment, to be able to stop, breathe, and ask yourself what you truly need right now.

And then on to the next moment…

And the next.

You can do this. You are not alone. You are held and loved – always.

-Archangel Michael (Archangel Michael is a protector who can help us release fear and doubt and instead tap into courage and hope.)

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